I know I’ve been coming at you with these relationship based posts at rapid speed but it’s only because as I left most of my foolishness in 2017 I also left two very heavy relationships and lucky for you they provided me with plenty of material to write about. Lol who’d have thought I’d be so excited to be rid of them?! Okay here we go.
So… Red flags, what are they in reference to a relationship?! Good question. I think if you look it up you’ll find all sorts of explanations, all justified but I would describe a red flag in a relationship as anything in the relationship that violates your core values, anything that would be detrimental to the relationship in the long run or anything that you know you just can’t tolerate in the long run.
Wow there is so much I want to say about this as usual I hardly know where to start. I think we should start with a story yes that’s the best place to start. There was once a girl called Becky now this Becky met a man called Daniel and fell head over heels in love with this man only problem is there were things about him she didn’t like, things that she could see, things her girlfriends could see as well but for some reason she decided to overlook them as most of us do. So what was wrong with Daniel you ask, well, Daniel had serious case of something called potty mouth lol do you know what potty mouth is?! If you don’t this is a beautiful learning moment for you. Daniel also had violent tendencies that she saw and in all her wisdom chose to ignore after all Daniel had found Jesus and Jesus cures all things I’m I right?! 😂 Daniel was relatively selfish now this wouldn’t be a problem if Becky was selfish too but she wasn’t she was the kindest most generous peach you’ve ever met. So Becky and Daniel date and court and eventually get married but then she notices that the things that used to bother her about this man are now amplified you know why?! Because now it’s not as easy for her to just up and leave and also because when people get married they generally tend to get more comfortable with their spouse you know, if they had potty mouth on check when they were dating you it turns to a sewer mouth and so on and so forth. In the end, all the things that prompted her to leave, that she chose to ignore were what ended the marriage and do you think it was his fault?! Not really. I think it was hers, for ignoring red flags. The moment she saw those red flags and chose to ignore them, it seized being his fault completely. They are there for a reason. Now it may seem as though I’m pointing to Becky and laughing and I am, but I’ve had my fair share of foolishness and stupidity. I’ve been a Becky before I just don’t know how to talk about my own version without violating the other person’s privacy.
For those of you who are spiritual and or believe in a God or deity of any kind, you can agree or disagree with me on the fact that God shows us red flags 🚩. God is always watching over us and protecting us from our own foolishness. Red flags 🚩are what tell us that the person we think is so compatible to us, is in fact not compatible at all. Red flags 🎌 are what tell us to pull out before we get hurt, before we are overly invested, before we give our all only to be crushed both figuratively and/or literally. I feel like when we pray about these things and we invite God into them he literally descends and gets involved, always watching and loving us through, always out to protect his own.
Excuse the sermon sometimes I get carried away. So here is my point, falling in love blindly, is for the foolish and irresponsible. And as Keisha Green would say “jumping without a net is for the birds”. Yes dating someone who shows you obvious red flags is like jumping off a cliff without having a net to catch you, and that too will also be your fault. Open your eyes ladies and remaining gentleman, keep your eyes peeled open and pray about all these things even those things he’s/she’s been working so hard to hide will be revealed. I know this was a little preachy but I’ve seen what it’s like when you tell God to step aside and let you handle things on your own. Let’s just put it this way, even the most obvious RED FLAG becomes completely oblivious to you.