I think the popular word on the street is that people don’t change. Or at least that’s what I’ve heard growing up all these years. They even sing it in frozen that people don’t really change, but I disagree. I think that if people are capable of growth, then they are capable of change. Because what is change? And what is growth? I have always thought they were reflections of each other in some way.
1. Make or become different.
Come into existence and develop
Grow or cause to grow and become more mature, advanced, or elaborate.
“Motion pictures were to develop into mass entertainment”
Synonyms: grow, evolve, mature, expand, enlarge, spread, advance, progress, prosper, succeed, thrive, get on well, flourish, blossom, bloom, burgeon, make headway, be successful
Okay first I love words, I love how some words marry each other, and it’s just so fascinating. Anyway I digress, so back to what we were talking about earlier about whether or not people change. Let’s look at the three words I’ve pulled out if the online dictionary. Grow, change and develop. See how they all turn into the same word? Honestly it is quite amazing; all to say that if you are growing, then you must change, you can’t grow without developing and you can’t develop and remain the same person you’ve always been, it just isn’t possible.
So what brought all this on? That is an excellent question. I was watching the Mindy project last night it was the last episode of season 6, by the way if you’ve never seen the show you should totally check it out. Anyway, she was giving a toast at her co-workers wedding and she was talking about how these two co-workers weren’t meant to be together before but they were now because people grow, people change, and the funny thing about it is that it happens so gradually that you almost cant… and then she had an epiphany and ran out of the wedding.
In that moment while she was having her epiphany it made me realise just how profound all that is. It got me thinking about someone who once upon a time I thought was my happily ever after. I thought about them and about what Mindy had just said and I thought that it was about them and in that moment I had an epiphany of my own, that the profoundness of what Mindy had said was because it was for me, it was about me. About how much I had changed, about how I had grown, about how I wasn’t the person I once was. So in case you didn’t believe it, take it from me, I am a living testimony, people can change. If they can grow, then they can change. And if they refuse to grow, then it’s not your job to make them. I know that was women we have this line we say to ourselves, I can change him, no honey, you really really can’t. The only person who can change him, is himself. And it’s not your job to make that happen either, your only job is to grow yourself, and to continue to grow.
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