Why can’t someone else do it 😒?! (Part 2)

This piece is long and emotional because the earth is my home, and I like my home, don’t you?! It’s emotional because I’m not doing enough. I know I’m not doing enough so I’m feeling guilty. Hence the conscience Irking situation. I hope I’m not the only one with sleepless nights over this. I hope I’m not the only one who acknowledges being a citizen of this planet.

I know some of you are wondering what I do for this cause, I recycle, it’s very small scale but it’s something and I donate to the redress tree planting campaign. All that isn’t enough but I’ll do better, I have to because I know better. Not doing better would be ignorant of me and I’ve never cared for an ignorant person have you?!

Okay let’s summarize this, I’m not taking shorter showers for anything and neither should you guys. The best thing we can do is walk when we can walk, use public transportation when we can, carry a reusable bag to the supermarket and plant trees. That’s all you have to do. Let me put that in bullet form to make certain you don’t forget. At this point in time there are 7 billion people on the planet. Imagine if all of us planted one tree each, how many trees would that be?! 7 billion that’s right. Do you think that would make a difference?!

Ways to love our planet 🌍
• Plant trees
• Use reusable shopping bags
• Use public transportation
• Walk and bike more
• Preserve the trees around you.


Why can’t someone else do it😒?! (Part 1)

I was having a conversation with myself this morning as I was making my cup of mocha and this is important because the coco can, the plastic one I’m sure you’re all familiar with I felt as though it was talking to me. I don’t know how many of you have a conscience, I used to believe everyone had one but then if that were the case then people who litter would not exist. But they do. So obviously not everyone has a conscience.
Well of late mine has been Irking me, Irking at me hard and without resilience so I have to shade email these thoughts with my beloved readers. I have a question for you, all of you, how many of you are aware about global warming?! I would assume most of you if not all of you right?! Well what are you doing about it?! Are you doing anything to remedy the situation?! There is this quote that used to hang on our wall, it always made me laugh when I was little but as I got older it became less and less funny to me, instead it made me think. I’m thinking I have mentioned it in another one of my articles but I’m not 100% sure it was in this blog site or my other one. The quote went “Are you here with the solution or are you part of the problem?!”
That might very well be my favorite quote. Not just because it can be applied to a plethora of situations but also because it causes an inward evaluation of character. Well speaking for myself at least. What kind of person I’m I?! What kind of person are you?! Are you with the complaining and whining team or are you with the problem solving team?! You can’t just answer for the heck of it, you must have supporting evidence. If you are with the supporting team then you are doing something or a number of things to remedy the situation and the people around you can speak to this as well, but if no one can corroborate your view of yourself then you’re obviously playing for the other team.

Good friends

You know my favorite thing about growing up is growing up. I love how it feels to know better and not kick myself when I’m down. That was a side note. Today, we are talking about friends and how to distinguish the good ones from the other ones who are in the regular pile. We all know what friends are right?! But what makes a friend a good friend?!
A good friend is supportive but at the same time a good friend will challenge you. I think to me this is the most important aspect of a friendship. Having people around who challenge me, not just regular people, people I call friends. Your friends should challenge you to be better because that’s what good friends do. They keep moving the goal post for you if you won’t move it for yourself. This is where I think guys fall short because guys don’t want to be challenged, they want to be comfortable. But in truth and without bias we all want to be comfortable, a lot of the time we don’t have it I ourselves to push the boundaries of comfort and mediocrity. This is where the good friend comes in. They know you, they see the problem and they come to help.
A good friend is there when you need them. You need to realize that your friends are human beings, they aren’t part human and part psychic. Don’t expect them to read your mind. If you need them let them know. A good friend might not always be there when you want them but they will always, always be there when you need them. Remember that.
A good friend will tell you when you are wrong. This is needed. Not only that but is super important. Life is a series of choices. Everything is a choice. The most important thing you can have is someone who can help you through some of those choices especially when you are making the wrong one. This is very important. A good friend is not afraid to not be on the same page as you because they know that your relationship is built on a solid foundation.
A good friend has your best interest at heart. In all honesty this one needs no explanation. They have your best interest at heart period! They want what’s best for you even though it might not be the best thing for them. And before this is taken out of context let me give an example. The other day my best friend told me that she has an opportunity to leave school for a semester to work and this would mean that I won’t be able to see her at school anymore but I told her to take it anyway because that opportunity might be the only one for a while and I wouldn’t want her to miss it for anything.




PS: To all my new followers, Thank you and welcome to the family. All my love.

Time out

A few weeks ago I had a flood of thoughts at midnight, I call them my midnight  thoughts, lol how profound. Anyway I put up one of them on my WhatsApp status and it went something like “sometimes being on the bench is the best place to be, you get to watch other players make their mistakes and learn from them so that when you finally leave the bench, you know exactly how to win”. Well it went something like that, give or take a word or two reason this came to mind is because I had decided it was a good idea for me to take a break from relationships, romantic relationships that is because I realised that I was dating the same person, different face and body but the same person nevertheless.

First of all, it wasn’t until I took a step back from it all that I was able to see the pattern so already some space was giving me clarity,  and clarity was much needed. The funny thing is that in all those past relationships, I was the common denominator so there is no one to be mad at but me. I got myself into those relationships and no matter what went down, I am at fault for being there if nothing else.

Something else I realised is how much of myself is lost when I was with someone else you know, because I get so involved and somehow the relationship Swallows me whole. So I decided to just be me, to relearn myself/ to date me for a little while and work on myself. I think we all need this from time to time. I have to say, I am so much happier. I am able to tell who adds joy to my life and who brings negativity and/or takes away from me instead of adding to me. It’s become irrefutably clear. I am all round happier and better; Even while I struggle with my time management I am better off. Which ofcourse is scary because now I’m totally gun shy. I don’t want to add anyone to my bubble so that they come with their stuff, their issues and drama that I’m just now done cleansing myself of. Lol why does everything in life have to be a double edged sword?!

Regardless of all of that, I needed this and if you can relate with any of this then you probably need a break too.

Just like Alice

You know I’ve been feeling like Alice recently, hoping that you guys have watched Alice in Wonderland the cartoon otherwise my reference won’t make any sense at all. Did you notice how she gives herself the best advise and then never follows it?! 😂I’m I the only one who relates with that?! Because I give myself excellent advice, I call a meeting, me and myself attend, we agree on changes we are going to make to be better and then we just never follow any of it😂😂😂 or we do, you know for two days and then we are right back to mediocre behavior I even spoke to my mom about this a while back because it was driving me crazy and if you can’t tell it obviously still is. It bothers me because mediocrity bothers me. All my mom had to say was that I’m too hard on myself… maybe… or maybe I need to tighten the reigns. Our personalities are different here’s and mine so we obviously can’t agree on all things. But first console me, at least tell me I’m not the only one.
I woke up last night to workout because I had promised myself I would. It had gotten to that point where I had to plead with myself because not having worked out would be to not keep a commitment to myself and jeez a little loyalty and follow through is needed, because if I can’t keep a commitment to myself then surely I can’t keep a commitment to any e and that would make me unreliable, undependable, in short all the things that I do NOT want to be associated with. Change is needed. Not the kind that lasts a day then I’m back to bullshitting, the kind that makes it a habit, the kind that makes me a role model. When I was done with my workout something came to me, a voice actually. The voice said that if I did everything I needed to do at the time the thing needed to be done then I would find that I have time to do everything I need to do. If that isn’t the most profound thing I have ever heard; then nothing is. Chew on that and enjoy the rest of your day.

Room for God

In this day and age I’d say every body is scrambling to be someone, we are all so busy doing whatever occupies our time and it got me thinking about a blog I follow called “finding God in messy places” (y’all should check it out by the way). What drew me to the blog was the title, I’m an analyst I like to analyse everything that sparks my interest or anything that intrigues me and this particular blog title did. It made me think about my life it made me think about God and the kind of relationship I have with him.

Naturally any spiritual person just wants to get closer to God that’s the goal everyday, to feel him more in life. But anyone can want things. And wants g something and actually making it happen are two very very different things. We all want God to lean into our lives more but what are you doing about it?! What I’m I doing about it?! Something else that may have definitely contributed to this is a quote I read sometime not too long ago that read “if you want God to open the door let go of the handle” damn does that sound as profoundly to you as it does to me?! Because to me it was like an aha moment, that so many times we pray to God for things and for this and that and for situations we are struggling with  and then what do we do?! We leave him no room to do his job. That’s the point of this whole post. Where is room for God in your life?! Does he have any room or are you playing your role and his?! I’ll give you an example of giving God no room, this is what happens, you ask God for a husband and then you go ahead and marry the wrong guy, like what the hell?! Then will you go ahead and say that God didn’t listen?! That God doesn’t answer prayers because he does, always and forever but if you are going to go to him you need two things.

1. Be patient and

2. Get the hell out of the way.

Let God be God. Let him love you, let him take care of you. Let him be God. Give him room.


I started writing this piece then somehow my thought process went right off the rails and I had to start over. I realized that my opinion was too biased and I’m not here to play “mom”  to any of my readers. I don’t exist here to tell you what to do so I had to do this piece over.

What does training mean?! Take your time… I’ll wait. Good we all on the same page now, great! So a lot of people from school have been commenting on how I dress now, they say it’s so official and sophisticated and in truth, yes it is all of that, but why is the question. I’m I working? Yes. And we all are. Some of us just take it more seriously than others. Most students don’t realize that college is a training ground. We are all being trained to be a certain person. I’ll give you an example, say you want to be a business consultant, that dream doesn’t start when you graduate, It starts when you decided that your time in campus and your tuition is a seed and what you want to saw from it is business consulting. Now, who do you want to be in the firm?! Are you a partner?  Are you a clerk? Are you in the mail room or are you the Director?! Whatever your answer was is what you are training for.

Every day that’s who or what you are training for. Directors don’t become directors on the day they are appointed, no no no, they become Directors when they’re still in school they know exactly where they are going, they know all their goals and they know just how to make it happen. They look like directors even now, their suits may not be Armani but they are still in a suit, they are precise, they get the job done, they are always ahead of schedule and they don’t have time for excuses. Does it sound like a lot of work?! Of course, it does! If it was easy everyone could do it, but not everyone can and not everyone who starts succeeds because the top is not meant for everyone. It’s meant for the few who are willing to go the distance. It’s meant for the few who know just what is at stake and are able to take advantage of every opportunity. Those are the CEOs and the Directors.

My point being, in this world there is only two things and I know someone may contradict me on this and I hope you do (in the comment section below) but the way I see it there is only winners and losers. People who always know what they are training for and people who don’t have a clue. Nothing in between. Now understand that winning means something different for every individual, but all in all there are only two teams and I know what team I’m playing for do you?!