This isn’t something I planned on writing on this particular blog unlike my other blog [fabgalaxy.wordpress.com] in which romantic relationships were the lifeblood and the backbone. But I was talking to my friend the other day and it got me thinking because it was a situation even I could relate with even though I’m not currently in a romantic relationship.
So a little back story, my friend has recently met someone new and she has just been through so much that she has become somewhat paranoid. She is so scared of letting herself be happy even just for a second because she feels like if she did that, everything would be blown to hell and the saddest thing about all this is that I understand as I’m sure many others do and because of this I simply had to write about it because I know better.
For the longest time, I used to think that love as the warm fuzzies and all that but I was wrong. I don’t know what that is but it certainly isn’t love. It certainly isn’t love. And if you choose to view that as love then I am fairly certain you will go on being disappointed by it. The kind of love that is marketed to us everywhere we look is the captioned type. The kind where people are posing in a moment when they look perfectly happy, perfectly in love and that’s why we have all become so foolish. It is also why we are still single, myself included because we are all waiting for something perfect and yet we all know that perfect doesn’t exist.
It will never be perfect, make it work.
That is the best quote I have ever encountered and just perfect for this article. Love is choosing that person you want to be with and it’s choosing them over and over again. Love is saying no to people who want to ruin what you have. Love is fighting for your partner so that at the end of the day, it is not destiny or fate, it’s just you two having earned your love, having earned your happily ever after. And don’t worry, the one that’s worth fighting for will reveal itself to you. It will be as described in the book of Corinthians and it will understand that you’ve been hurt. It will understand that life is hard enough as it is. It will understand that you can’t go on hurting forever. Because love, real love understands.
At one point or another, we have all been hurt by someone we loved and that’s okay. It doesn’t make any of us unique or special, it just makes us human and so I will tell you what I told her. You can’t be a coward just because someone hurt you or betrayed your trust or because someone was too big a coward to commit. Life is short and you will die alone because you were too big a coward to open up to the love of your life and that would simply be too tragic. When you get someone or something that feels good, that’s not the time for you to wear your crazy cap and start following them and stalking them online, that’s the time for you to be open and honest and bask in the perfection of the moment and trust that love is not out to get you. Trust that love understands that you deserve to be happy too.