Sometimes I wish I didn’t have to encounter some people and I know I’m not the only who’s felt this at one point or another. I know we all feel this from time to time. I remember the first time I went to boarding school, I had such a hard time, and in all honesty, it would have been a whole lot easier if I had a better understanding of why people who inflict pain on others while completely unprovoked do so. Just a quick disclaimer I am no shrink or psychologist this is something I have observed all on my own and reflected upon after my experiences.
Isn’t the fact that humans are social beings a bitch?! Ensuring that all the setups are social, so we can’t live in complete isolation so from time to time you meet someone who’s just unpleasant to be around. Each time you see them they totally ruin your day and sometimes you try to avoid them and succeed and other days you just can’t get away from them, and truth is you can’t go around avoiding someone in a space that you are equally entitled to be in. It’s not right and it’s way too much work, no one has all that time. Therefore today we shall look into all this and try to get to the bottom of it to make your life easier. To make all our lives easier.
It’s simple really, hurt people hurt people. Happy people just don’t go around inflicting pain. And that is a fact. I consider myself to be considerably happy and when I see my mom after a long day the first thing I do is give her a big hug and ask her how her day was so I know that happy people spread positive energy because even though she didn’t have the best day, she can tell me about it and the fact that someone took time to ask about how she faired, gets her to feel loved and cared for and that’s what happy people do. Therefore logic dictates that the opposite is also true. We are not here to add to the problem, we have already gotten down to the problem now let’s come up with solutions.
There are only two ways to go about this and avoiding is not one of them. Here we don’t dance around problems, we face them head on and try to crush the ones that we can and the ones that we can’t we accept while we look for possible solutions. So option one; you could tell this person how unpleasant they are. Yes, I said it. Don’t make that face, my Council is sound and more importantly effective. I know that very few people are straight shooters and that’s probably why so many people are unhappy. You have to guard your happiness. You have to guard it fiercely. It’s yours and at the end of the day, your body is your home, and when someone disturbs your peace they make your body a very uncomfortable place to live and that’s how we get sick by the way so don’t be bullied in your own home. Just tell the person straight up and try to be gentle but make sure your point comes across crystal clear. The second approach is quarantine. Haha sounds extreme, doesn’t it?! But it’s seriously effective I guarantee it. You just tell someone they are unpleasant and that they will do well to stay away from you. That’s it. That’s all you have to do. No rocket science, it’s simple for all parties involved to understand.
Keep in mind that these conversations are never easy it hurts even when you get rid of people who annoy you, it might sting a little but you must be assertive and choose yourself and your happiness above all else every single time.