‘Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow we die’ and ‘All good things to those who wait’ are two of my favorite sayings in the English language and yet they are total opposites. I recently re-watched a video on YouTube from one of my favourite channels ‘wellcast’ that talked about patience and what it has to do with success. Naturally I didn’t want to watch it because I am generally not a patient person. Patience is something I have been working on over the years and also because Alfred Hitchcock said that if you are the eat-drink-and-be-merry type you’ll probably end up fat alcoholic and miserable. I want us to look into patience/impatience and the impact it has on how well/poorly we do in life.
According to the video, there was a study carried out by Stanford University about forty years ago by one Walter Mischel. He offered a bunch of four year olds a marshmallow and told them that if they could wait fifteen minutes they would get a second marshmallow. Seventy percent of the children ate their marshmallows while only thirty percent were able to wait and get their second marshmallow. A decade and a half later, the subjects were called in for an interview and it was found out that the thirty percent that were able to wait did over all better in life, they got better test scores and we’re doing better in life and we’re even found to be happier than the Seventy percent that didn’t wait for the second marshmallow. It was concluded that delayed gratification is a marker for success in life.
For those of you that need a definition instant gratification is the now attitude, I want to get rich right now, I want to fornicate, I want to pass this test(even though you haven’t studied), I want to lose twenty pounds(even though you have poor eating habits and refuse to exercise), I want a bigger butt etc whatever it is you are struggling with. Instant gratification is not the way to go about it. People who are inclined towards instant gratification are people who cut corners and people who sell drugs and steal, people who get shots to enlarge body parts and take pills to lose weight and cheat on exams instead of studying. There is a pattern here, none of these things end well. You lose your freedom, die by mob or get burned, get sent to jail, you could wind up getting very ill from shots or contract some disease due to a negative reaction with whatever drug they use to enlarge body parts plus have you guys seen the side effects of that stuff, it’s scarier that all horror movies combined. You could get expelled from school, you generally lose your credibility, some of these things change the course of your life.
All in all I don’t see a happy ending. There is only one way to get the things you want, you want to be rich powerful and influential, network and work hard and smart. Be good at what you do and be nice to people. You want a bigger butt do some squats and adjust your diet, you want to lose weight, start working out and eating smaller portions. This is the right way to go about this. This is the winners way to go about things. That’s why the winners circle is so small, because everyone else has a loser/weakling mentality.
It’s the little things that differentiate winners and losers. And I’m not talking about the corner cutting losers who wind up dead and buried in an unmarked grave, I’m talking about the upstanding winners who make it through handwork and proper, clean channels that can be used to inspire people. I like to win and I like for the people around me to win too, and not by sleeping their way to the top or bribing your way into things, but by merit and by being the best at what you do. Because you are the person everyone needs to know because you get things done and you work hard to be where you are or are working hard to get to where you want to be. Because you have failed and risen a thousand times. The winning side is not for everyone it’s not for the weak or faint hearted because no one sees what’s beneath the success, not everyone will see the pain, or the sacrifice or the persistence or the patience or the hard work or the determination or the diligence, but you will be a warrior, a Victor, you will be the king or the Queen by merit and that is the kind of monarchy that stands the test of time and credibility.