For some time now I have been writing about loving your body which I repeat for emphasis is the most important thing anyone could choose to do for themselves, however there is something greater still, self love.
Contrary to what one might think, self love is having a desire to do things that are good for you and generally being kind and loving towards one self and not narcissism; therefore this piece is not to make the narcissists of the world feel better about themselves or justify their behaviour. Great, now that that’s out of the way, we can get on with it.
I’ll have to admit that when I first had the idea to write about self love I didn’t really know exactly what I wanted to say about it, but hopefully as I go on, it will come to me. It feels like as I/we grow up it becomes very easy to lose sight of what’s important and any normal person would be wondering what that is. The most important thing to you should be you. Or at least it’s supposed to be. As we grow up, more and more things happen and more and more things are added to our plate of responsibility and while that is very important and necessary, one need not lose sight of the most important thing. I know that just thinking about it at a glance one would have the tendency to tell themselves that it’s just like, you know that’s just the way life is, things happen you know. But I would urge that’s poppycock and that the person obviously needs to read my piece on fate Vs reality.
Self love has a number of parts I suppose. Self love involves loving yourself as you are now, it also involves giving your body what it needs. That means exercise at least three times a week and healthy food. Self love also involves you finding balance. We are made of three parts. Mind, body and spirit. You have to ensure that you nurture all three. You need to stimulate your mind. That could be done in so many different ways, find one that works for you, that is fun for you. For your body, remember that you are what you eat. Therefore eat mindfully and exercise, at least thirty minutes of cardio three times a week. That is needed to keep you healthy and lastly your soul/spirit. That could mean any number of things to any number of people so I really won’t get into it. The bottom line is that for all of us reaching to look inside of ourselves can only be achieved when we attempt to silent our thoughts and meditate. Yes I said it again, meditation. It is needed. We all need to do it. There is no prescribed amount of time. Meditate for as long as you like for your spiritual well being. I was listening to Pastor T. D. Jakes the other day and he said that in this day and age we have this habit of looking for things to fill our day, so we add things to our schedule until it is full, until the only free time we have is for a break to eat and use the lavatory but other than that we are just on the go and I too am guilty of this. Mostly because sometimes the thought of being left alone with my thoughts is the scariest thing anyone could ask of me, but it is needed. It is only when we are alone that we can connect with God, that we can be still enough to listen and hear his voice.
So a quick recap. Self love has nothing to do with being narcissistic, it’s about loving one self and choosing things that are for one’s well being. We all have three parts and all three parts have to be fed, nurtured for us as a whole to be well which is the whole point of self love. And lastly you are and should be the most important thing to yourself. If you can’t create time to love yourself, you have no business committing to love anyone else.