Hoping you’ve managed to read my previous dear fat girl pieces, there are things that we have already discussed and agreed on. Let’s just go over some of them briefly, the basic one being that you are beautiful, just as you are now. Not after you’ve lost five pounds or after you start jogging or after that dress that fit you five years ago fits you again, NO. You are beautiful right now, as you read this, and the most powerful being in the universe says so. Okay then, now that we’ve gotten that out of the way lets talk about the other elephant in the fat girl’s room… dating!!!
Now I don’t really know how to go about this because God’s truth is that my body has never stopped me from dating so I guess at this point I’ll have to borrow from a gorgeous cousin of mine who I hope doesn’t mind because this could help someone else. I remember when I first met her, she was the timidest person I had ever met but as I got to talk to her, I realized that she is fun and warm and full of character; not to mention she is gorgeous and any guy anywhere would be lucky to get to know her. The problem is I don’t think she felt the same way about herself, which is why I insist that if you haven’t read the previous dear fat girl articles please go read them, you can find them in a category called living with curves.
Okay, think that excerpt is enough for me to build off of. Okay first things first, you have to put yourself out there. So you want to date and you’ve been praying about it and asking the universe for help but do you really expect guys to fall from your roof? It’s raining men the song was just that, a song. If you want to meet people you have to go to where the people are. Go out, volunteer, get a hobby, grab drinks with friends and if you aren’t the kind of person to do outdoorsy things, no matter. There is this magical thing that exists these days called the internet. Online dating is growing at an increasing rate, create a profile in an online dating website of your choice and meet beautiful people like yourself.
Secondly, and this is probably the most important part, please understand that there is something called preference. Let me explain something, just the way some guys like girls with big asses or big boobs or no boobs at all, there will be guys who like big girls and guys who prefer skinny girls and you know what, that’s okay because the world needs balance. Just think about how the world would be if guys only ever dated curvy girls, what would the skinny girls do? So don’t go around taking things personally for no reason. Date a guy who likes your body besides, picture this, do you really want that guy who will date you but pressure you everyday to lose weight and who’ll call you fat and make you feel worthless? I think that this is a really big problem here, you are a curvy goddess and you need someone who will worship your curves. So what you dated one guy who preferred a size 2? That doesn’t speak for the entire male population which I sure is well over three billion.
Lastly, have a personality. No one is going to date someone without a personality unless they’re paying for your company in which case I can assure you they don’t care what you have to say about anything. Be nice, work on yourself, you are more than your curves, what else can anyone say about you? Are you smart, really fun to be around, really kind? What will anyone remember about you aside from your gorgeous curves?
Okay so lets recap, there are only three things to dating as a curvy goddess. Before it all, love and appreciate yourself, you are perfect just as you are now. Once you are in a steady loving and kind relationship with yourself, get yourself out of the house or consider online dating. Your prospects should be people who like curvy bodies and if they don’t, they are just not worth your time and lastly, work on yourself, your body is not who you are. What can people say about you? Funny thing is no one’s eulogy talks about their body… lol, jus remember that and happy dating my lovelies!!!